After reading this interview with Elisabeth Badinter, I’m going to say no.
Pro tip: If you are going to complain about guilt and high expectations don’t go around telling people that their giving in to “tyranny” by making the choice to breastfeed and that they just happen to be ruining the women’s movement for everybody.
If guilting a mother for formula feeding is bad, so is guilting a woman for breastfeeding. I know, it seems obvious but apparently these things need explaining.
I’ve been a feminist for as long as I could articulate what that word meant and even though I am not a mother I have always kept it ‘on my radar’ so to speak because rights for parents will always weigh heavily on the rights of women. On no other issue have I seen feminists more willing to tear other women down than when it comes to breastfeeding.
And why? I just don’t get it.
Yes there will always be that one nosey brat in the park who feels it’s there right to tell a mother they should be breastfeeding if they happen to pull out a bottle. But there’s just as many who will tell a breastfeeding mother that she is gross for ‘whipping’ her breasts out to feed a child. No one in this situation tends to get off easier than the other.
So why would you add to the pressure?
What I really don’t get is pushing this view that women who choose formula aren’t actually free to do so. Even in Canada, with fairly generous maternity leave, the majority of women will feed formula. Less than 25% will go to six months of exclusively breastfeeding. Not exactly a mob of formula feeding oppression.
Is there any benefit to the feminist angle Badinter is taking with the ‘mommy wars’ here?
Badinter’s primary focus is this idea that women are making more work for themselves. That it’s more work to breastfeed, more work to use cloth diaper, more work to co-sleep etc. To be a “natural” parent plays into patriarchal ideals of keeping women-folk busy with the children instead of out there in the “real” world.
Now, I have not read Badinter’s book on this matter (working on the library system here) so I am not going to pretend to be able to offer a direct rebuttal, however these conclusions ring false to me.
First of all, are these things actually “more” work? I think to say so make far too many assumptions. The first being that bottle feeding will somehow equalize the work load of caring for a child. Yeah dad isn’t going to be so ace at breastfeeding, but why are we assuming he’s going to be sterilizing bottles?
This would be the problem I have with most of these assumptions. To conclude that these activities will place more work unfairly on women has to assume that men have no part in raising children, but for the only way the ‘mainstream’ methods create less work is if we believe men will alwasy be there to help.
You would hope that men would do whatever they could to help regardless of diapering, or sleeping, or feeding arrangements. Though even at my age I know many a father who will pass off a baby as women’s work regardless of the fact that they happen to be using bottles. Formula feeding will not equalize an unequal partnership nor will breastfeeding upset a couple set on equality.
Let’s give everyone a little more credit than all this, and hold the judgement sauce.




